Anti Bullying Week 2016 | My Story, My Advice

A large part of my childhood consisted of being bullied, which is why I believe I don't remember a whole lot of it, my mind seems to have a special way of putting the traumatic experiences of my past in a box but occasionally they sneak out and I get a flash back of something that happened at school. Why was I bullied? I was bullied for the colour of my hair, for being ginger and I was bullied for being different. I was left out, isolated, my belongings stolen and destroyed, being called names, left out, pinched and kicked. Throughout my childhood and up to this point in the present I've never 'fitted in', I'm 21 now, in university and I still don't fit in, but it bothers me less, I know who I am, and I am my own person. I put a lot of this down to bullying and other traumatic experiences that made me decide one day to jump on a plane to America alone and work as a Camp Counselor for the Summer, during my time away I grew so much as a person, experienced some great and some horrible things and came back home a different person, focusing on my career, my future and myself. 

I endured years of bullying and isolation, I tried several times to end my life, to wipe my existence but I am glad I didn't, I've got over 50 years left now to be independent, decide my own fate, meet like minded people and accomplish my goals and aspirations. I will remember the experiences I had of bullying but I will use these as a reminder that I can and will survive because things can only get better. When I used to go through difficult times where I struggle, things looked bleak and I felt sad my dad would get youtube on and play D Ream 'Things Can Only Get Better'' and I kid you not it would cheer me up and give me some small bit of hope that maybe this situation will only be temporary.

My advice for anyone who is experiencing bullying is;

1. Seek help
Today there are plenty of places you can seek help, Childline, Stand Up To Bullying, Pastoral Care in your school, your parents, grand parents, friends. Tell someone.

2. Ignore
Ignore as best you can, bullies want a reaction from you. Don't let them have it, eventually they'll tire of trying to get one from you.

3. Write a journal
When we feel alone and we feel like we have no one to talk to it can build up and snowball into horrible feelings, use a journal to write out your thoughts and feelings, sometimes just getting it out on a page will make you feel better.

4. Focus on you.
Focus on yourself, your studies, your work, your hobby. 

5. Listen 
Listen to D Ream ''Things Can Only Get Better'' and remember that it will always get better it just takes a bit of time. I've linked it below for you.

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